(An honest break up after almost 4 years)
I know we’ve known each other since 2006. Believe me, this is not an easy conversation to have. We’ve both been through a lot. I raised $750,000, you raised over $400,000,000, I have a small team of mostly volunteers, you have over 1200 employees worldwide. We both have made our share of brilliant and stupid decisions. The spotlight and our 15 plus minutes of fame have been good. You’ve gotten a few more national, network shows than I have. That’s OK, I’ll be catching up soon.
I have to admit, I started my relationship with you because of intense peer pressure and the media hype. Everyone was doing you. And yes, I wanted to feel that connection too.
In the beginning you were a fairly low maintenance hook up. It was casual fun, a few applications and goofy ways to gift and entertain others. Then you got kind of way too social and now have hundreds of millions of others that you connect with too. Some are respectable citizens, some are monkeys on the run from the St Pete police and some are pure creepy pedophiles. Maybe it’s my conservative values, but it’s feeling sleazy to me.
OK that lack of real intimacy was attractive at first. You never asked for more than my headshot and my hip cellulite was never exposed. And I enjoyed our time together.
But recently things have changed. You look different. Our goals are miles apart. I need to focus on things that move my business dial. You are all over the place. I’m a design snob and your environment is so yellow pages looking. And all those time sucking, useless apps are really starting to get on my last nerve.
I need a break. At least six months of no checking in, no dialogue, no meeting new friends or small talk with old ones. No wall talk, no pics posting and absolutely no video, unless 60 Minutes calls.
I’m leading a start up, with a clear business mission. I’ve got limited resources and need to get solid ROI on every investment of time. I’ve got to stay laser focused on growing a sustainable venture, not share beer shots with a bunch of people I hardly know.
Don’t take this wrong. You are great, for millions others out there. This is all about me. They are my issues.
So who am I seeing? Well it’s complicated. There are few. Linkedin seems to really meet my needs. And Twitter gives me instant gratification. And there’s a few blogs too, that I really value. I’m not committed to any one thing. You know that’s not my style. But this thing with you has got to take a serious break. It’s going nowhere. Call me selfish, but you do not bring me any traffic for time involved. It’s just freaking frustrating. In the past I’ve been on the down low about all of this, but I feel it’s my responsibility to tell my other friends, especially other startups and entrepreneurs. No one or business person should ever feel guilt about not being immersed or active in Facebook. When you are running a business, you must spend your time on things that matter and make a difference.
I’ve thought long and hard about this. I believe this is the best for me and my future.
And one more important thing. I’ve respected your privacy. I’ve not shared your personal data or where you buy your underwear. I trust you will do the same.
It’s been fun, but I’ve had enough. I’m officially taking a Facebook break for at least 6 full months. If you need me, you’ve got my Twitter handle and my phone number. Do you still use a phone?
Anyhow, ciao for now!
President of Oddpodz
P.S., I’m serious as a heart attack. Social media is a wonderful thing, but every tool is not right for every business. (For a simple, straight forward starter guide to social media, check out this Social media Ta-Do list.) If your time is limited, like mine, leverage what brings you leads and helps build your brand. Save Facebook for when you’ve made lots of money and you just want to kill some time.
I agree. I use Facebook to keep in touch with family. They are on it so I check in occasionally to see what’s going on. I do not see Facebook as a business site.
i can be a witness if you ever decide to take this to court.
he’s been stealing my time too.
thanks for the fun post.
Bravo … I couldn’t have said it better!
Awesome post! I quit fb about a month ago…still think about him sometimes….even find myself wanting to post crazy statuses…then I remind myself we r no longer dating and that I threw facebooks number away…much more time on my hands!! Now I need to put my iPhone down…words with friends anyone?..anyone? Haha
Excellently written! I cancelled my FB acct last Friday! Privacy is more important than instant contact. I can send an e-mail or a REAL LETTER if I feel the need to keep in touch. Or if it’s REALLY URGENT: There’s ALWAYS Ma Bell!
I agree. Personally I use FB for friends and family. However some companies can use FB effectively when used correctly. But ever since I heard about YourOpenBook.org, I’m glad I don’t have hundreds of photos or sensitive comments in my account.
Very witty! And so true. I wish I wrote this. Well said, and excellent observations.
congrats. I quit about 6 months ago. Yes, there are better ways.
FB reminds me of that old star trek next gen where everyone was addicted to the same game, and lost their sense of responsibility. In the end, it was a plot by aliens to take over the ship. Well, some of that parallels reality. FB has some value, but not sure it’s worth the time it can take.
The route to a happier life is through happy thoughts. Not just because they make you feel better immediately… but because happier mcpd thoughts give you a stronger and more stable foundation to your life. You are in control rather than being bounced around by life.
I can understand your plight. Facebook and I had a 1 week of dating and I soon realized the Facebook was very high maintenance.
So I’ve become more like a Facebook pimmp – managing client Facebook romances and reaping the rewards.
I too find Twitter more gratifying and low maintenance – I’d say easier to use, but then people my think I’m abusive or disrespectful.
Facebook, like Paris Hilton a beautiful addiction!
Kudos to you Karen Post!
I too departed ways with FB back in March 2009.
I didn’t have a good feeling about it back then and my gut told me to steer away, so I did and have no regrets in doing so.
Then I turned to LinkedIn which is my one and only preferred network of networks. I remain pleased with the decision and results and use it strictly for that purpose, business!
To build connections based on quality not quantity, works for me! Twitter, not so much.
Cute, and certainly in vogue with a growing trend that likes to criticize Facebook for privacy issues, or slam the site for the immature acts of some of its users (some who you obviously considered “friends” at some point – yes, those ones sharing “beer shots” photos).
This would have been more effective had you hit your main point earlier, without all the pop Facebook dissing that actually contradicts what you’re trying to say.
I am glad you did finally target the key to social media that I’ve been advocating for some time – not every online option works for everybody, or every business. LinkedIn is a great tool for some, Facebook for others, Twitter is evolving into an important business tool, too.
If you look at all these social media tools like personal relationships, they begin to make sense. Some people you know add value to your professional life, others to your personal life, some maybe just to your exercise habits, etc.
Thanks for getting around to an excellent point.
The BEST and most PERFECT Dear facebook letter I ever read!
But, ofcourse. So true. Karen, you have actually highlighted and accentuated the very aspects which come across every third person’s mind concerning Facebook. I left Facebook joined Twitter and LinkedIn. Meeting my goals and standards with distractions.
Loved the article. Would love to hook up on FB but then you’ve had an intervention! OK, linked in would also work? Send me an invite!